Accepting your child’s ADHD diagnosis

Your child’s ADHD diagnosis has just been made. Relief, worry, anger, guilt: all of these emotions are normal. Here is how to work through them and move forward calmly. Taking the time to acknowledge these emotions helps you support your child better.

A mix of emotions

Many parents feel relief: at last, an explanation. Then there may be fear for the future, sadness or refusal. Both parents do not always react in the same way.

These emotions can alternate and come back at different times.

The article After the ADHD diagnosis: the steps covers this question in detail.

Guilt

Some parents blame themselves for their parenting or for not having noticed sooner. ADHD is not caused by parenting. You are not responsible for the disorder. Your role remains essential in supporting your child.

This point is explained step by step in The causes of ADHD.

The views of others

ADHD is still surrounded by misconceptions. Comments from those around you can hurt. Learning more helps you respond calmly. You know your child better than anyone.

To go further, read our article Common misconceptions about ADHD.

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Fear of treatment

Many parents worry about the idea of medication. It is not systematic, and the decision is made with the doctor, after you have asked all your questions. Ask all your questions before deciding.

We go into this point in detail in ADHD medication: parents’ questions.

Moving forward step by step

You do not have to put everything in place at once. Understanding, informing the school, following parent guidance: every step counts. Set yourself realistic priorities.

This topic is covered in our page Parent guidance and ADHD.

Your child is still the same

The diagnosis puts a name to their difficulties, but does not change who they are. They still have their qualities, their passions and their personality. They still need your trust.

You will find more details in the article ADHD and self-esteem.

Do not stay alone

Associations, parent groups and sometimes a psychologist can help you get through this period. Talking with other parents does a great deal of good.

Our article ADHD associations complements this advice.